As the 16 Days of Activism draws to an end, I wanted to address a common but divisive conversation starter: the phrase hashtag#NotAllMen. On the plane back from Albany after numerous discussions with amazing practitioners, I jotted down some ideas about how we can explore how this phrase, often invoked defensively, derails meaningful conversations about violence, accountability, and change. Read on for an important call for action that takes us in a different direction!